The parental role goes far beyond providing for your children by addressing their physical needs. It is also about building emotional resilience and strength that gets them in a better place to cope with the challenges they may face down the line. The best way to do it is by helping them see the silver lining even during the hardest phases. A financial problem, losing a loved one, and a relationship issue in the family are a few instances where kids may feel distressed. But you can do your bit to foster hope during a crisis. Here is the best parenting advice to help.
Model calm behavior
Children see parents as their role models, and your behavior during a crisis sets an example for them. Seeing you struggle with the situation can make the kids apprehensive about getting through, so be conscious about the way you handle it. The best thing you can do for them is model calm behavior, no matter how rough things get. Reassure kids that they are safe in your presence and live up to the word.
Have an honest conversation
As a parent, you may want to shield your child from the challenges of a crisis. But it will only keep them from developing strength and resilience in the long run. Have an honest conversation to explain the situation, but remember to choose your words wisely. Give accurate, brief, and age-appropriate information. Avoid talking about the scale of the tragedy, and be ready to address questions and concerns.
Talk about miracles
Although you must be honest with the kids, keeping the hope alive is vital. Talking about miracles is a good idea because they do happen. You can narrate angel stories and recall incidents you may have witnessed during your lifetimes, such as a relative beating a deadly disease or a friend getting through a disastrous accident. But you must believe in miracles to reinforce the concept for your kids.
Acknowledge your child’s feelings
Kids have their own way to deal with challenging situations because they manifest things differently from adults. Your child may feel fearful, sad, anxious, or overwhelmed through the crisis. Acknowledge, validate, and accept their feelings without passing judgments or telling them they should feel a certain way. Encourage them to share their feelings and listen calmly and reassuringly. Do not try to comment on their thoughts, but let them find their own way to cope with the negative patterns.
Maintain a routine
Life is not the same when a disaster hits your family, but you must do your best to devise
and maintain a normal routine. Establish a daily schedule for meals, chores, homework, and bedtime because kids feel comfortable and secure when life runs on a routine. Create a family prayer ritual to keep the hope and peace going strong. Fostering a sense of security and bonding in the family also helps.
Life brings its shares of ups and downs for every family, and kids are often worst affected during a crisis. Follow these tips to foster hope and keep your children strong during the toughest times.
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Meg is an author at Cinnamon Hollow. She writes on a variety of topics sharing tips and ideas for daily life.